A dear friend of mine and fellow professional mother, Sue, has decided to take the "professional" out of her motherhood. I'm so pleased for her and wish her the very best.
However, this news makes me pause to evaluate what I'm doing and whether I'm doing it right. (Because even though this is really about Sue, I can always find a way to make anything about me). The truth is, who can really tell what the right decisions are when it comes to each individual mother and child? My kids love me, but I know they miss me too. It has a lot to do with the fact that I'm busy beyond the hours required at my job and the additional hours that I spend donating my time (my time with my family) to philanthropic activities. I'm always questioning whether I've balanced it all correctly. I believe I should lead by example by having a good work ethic (which can be demonstrated by working in the home just as easily and maybe more by working in the home) and by donating my time to the community. Still, I have a full-time job (that does not confine itself to the hours of 8-5, Monday through Friday), ambitions of dedicating some time to getting in shape, commitments to three different community endeavors, the desire to spend quality alone-time with my husband, and the desire to spend quality time with my children. How can I possibly make all that work and still keep the house tidy and the laundry clean? Truth is, I don't.
So, back to my original question prompted by Sue's decision. Am I doing the right things? Am I? I don't know.